Today is exactly 7 months since my breakup. Yay me! I was cleaning out some old emails and came across my last exchange with narc a few weeks after our breakup. I’d found a Narc abuse Facebook page that confirmed for me once and for all that he was a narc, and I finally understood that my only chance at survival was to go No Contact. At the time it felt like I was jumping off a cliff into a great abyss, but looking back I know that was the day I decided I was worth more, and my life was worth saving. Thought I’d put up this last exchange for kicks.
February 19, 2014
Him (11:24am): I don’t know whats happened between last time we spoke and now that has made you go dark. Why do we have to repeat the same cycle over and over. I’m just confused. I am trying not to be angry but its just this crazy back and forth stuff I don’t get. Like you love me then you hate me you want me then you don’t Whats happening? Are you dating and don’t want me to get mad and call you a liar for saying it would be a long time before you started?
Me (12:45pm): Hi. Sorry for not giving an explanation, I’ve been trying to sort things out in my head to make sure of what I’m thinking before I say anything. So here it is.
I still have no intention to start dating. I just very much looking forward to having peace and stability in my life for a while. I’ve never had to cut off an ex before like this, but I’ve never known anyone before who behaves the way you do. So much drama. I’m just so done. I won’t be responding to any future communications.
Him (1:26pm): oh god I don’t know maybe its dickish of me to ask for the bracelet back. I don’t know ok maybe I am NPD or whatever I m sorry I can’t help it I just have this overwhelming feeling I’m being taken advantage of. I have to protect myself thats what that’s all about. I feel bad that you seem to have spent so much time reading about what I am all about. this should be time for you to focus on yourself. anyways I don’t know I just feel used. Just do what you think is right
Bracelet and I are celebrating 8 happy months together. 😀